When someone commented on Facebook:
Tiger Mom takes on Montessori............had that battle and lost. Most importantly the child lost :( This kind of vigorous Super Tot education does not bode well for the goal of ICCO in a primary setting..........it is the process not the product that counts
I took some time to reflect if I am indeed a Tiger Mom. The rest of the comment was utter rubbish because I set my own goals, our work is far from vigorous and the learning is nothing but fun for Tiger.
With the release of Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, suddenly, we, the Chinese parents everywhere have been labelled. Puh-lease, Tiger Mothers have been around forever.
I have not read the book. I am refusing to read it because I am afraid to admit that I may turn into one. Our parenting ways are often influenced by our upbringing. I can hear my mother in my voice at times. I was raised by a Tiger Mother, I would say most Asians/Chinese were too.
Here are some snippets from my childhood.
When I was 6 years old, I attended tuition class with my cousins who were 10 years old. We sat around a table and did Grade 5 maths together. I can still recall the smell of my tuition teacher and the room where we had our classes. I had no problem with the sums but I ended up with a life long hatred of math. (No idea where Little Tiger got his love of Math from. Montessori?)
Whenever I was up to no good, my mother would straighten me out with a cane. Very effective, till this day, I am scared of it. Once, when I hid her canes, she chased after me with the broom. Thinking back, it must have been hilarious for the neighbours. My mother was 22 years old when she had me, so she had the stamina to run after me.
I LOVE my mother. When I go home, I would demand for food. Occasionally, I would just plop myself on the couch and she would bring me the food and cutlery. She would tussle my hair and hold my hands unexpectectedly. We say," I Love You" after every phone conversation. She makes me blow her kisses over phone. I am forever grateful and indebted to my Tiger Mom.